Whos’down with GPP? Apparently, All the ladies…

Ladies, we’ve all been there.
You come home from a long day at work. You made a critical error on a project, you were publicly chastised. Or you didn’t make the error but someone, a co worker, or your employee did and you had to endure the verbal tongue lashing as if it was your mistake.
You rip your stockings.
Your heel breaks.
You burn dinner.
Your child has a project due in the morning and its 7 pm and now you’re on a mad dash to find glitter, poster board and print off biographical info for Lena Horne, or how volcanoes erupt or the solar system.

You finally get everything done, clothes washed for tomorrow, hair wrapped up.
You pour yourself a glass of wine and pull out your favorite non sexy pjs. The elastic is pulled out of shape, there may or may not be holes, they are faded and the top doesn’t match the bottom because they have been washed unequally…..

You take a long hot bath, slide into your comfy pjs and that coupled with the wine has gotten you in the perfect mood for sleeping.

You set your alarm and lie down.
And just as you are almost to dream land, you feel your husband or SO cuddle up to you and his wee willie winkle is poking you in the posterior.
You ignore it and close your eyes….
Then the hands start roaming.. light kisses on your neck, and normally that’s enough to spark your interest…
But tonight…
You just want to go to sleep
Yet you feel the insistence of his hands as the try to gently pry your legs apart….
He’s ready
Your not.
You feel him kissing down your belly but even the thought of the impending
“knowledge bowl session” is not enough to spark your interest….
But in the back of your mind you hear someone.. sometimes its your mother, your sister, your friend,
A ho from back in the day…. Say
If you don’t do it… there are million chicks out there who will…
And you turn over and part your legs…
And add a few moans.. kegel a little harder and its over.
You didn’t get yours but your thankful that its over and he’s asleep.
You turn over and work on getting to sleep.


That my friend is an example of “GPP” or giving pity pu**y.
And I am here to advocate against this!!

NO more should we feel we have to GPP for fear that someone else will satisfy our men.
NO more do we have to give and not get ours….

Look I am fully aware that when you’re in a relationship s.e.x sometimes takes a back burner.
I am an advocate for making time for your relationship however making time and GPP are two totally different things.

See when you make time you put yourself in the mind frame, you are open and receptive.. s.e.x will be something you can enjoy as well as your partner…
But when you GPP.. its at a sacrifice to you. Its saying its Okay that I don’t get what I need as long as your satisfied and while altruism is good and every relationship needs a dose of it.. we as women take it to far.

WE need to be satisfied as well. It is okay to say NO from time to time.


SEX is a gift for BOTH partners, not just men. He needs to work as hard for you as you work for him.
That doesn’t mean, say no cause you don’t want to stop watching tv. Or its 12pm EST and you gotta be first to comment on VSB.
We have to make sacrifices in relationships but all to often we women sacrifice it all and get nothing in return but an ungrateful ninja that is use to you being at his beck and call.
Women what good is having high standards if you get in a relationship and throw them out the window?
Like Beyonce.. the first time I said NO its like I never said yes…
And that’s exactly what happens.
Again, im not saying say no every time. Im not saying s.e.x has to be only on your terms yes you do have to make some allowances or sacrifices. Sometimes your honey is tired and he has had a bad day and a little understanding coupled with some head to head conversation is what he needs.
Sometimes you are not initially in the mood but a little persuasion makes it all good in the hood.
These are not instances of GPP… these are they types of things that need to go on in a relationship…..
But when you know, know it aint gone happen? When you know its not what you want AT ALL right then?
Just say noto GPP
Come on ladies..
Whose down with GPP?
Lets hope none of the ladies….

So what are your thoughts?